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Tonight is (maybe was I have no clue how long these things go) the Oscar's.

I mentioned last week that I had recently seen a film that is expected to do well, (I have no clue is it will or did but I digress) LaLa Land.

Today, I was thinking about the movie, because of the fact that the Oscar's were tonight and a thought came to me.

Ok...spoiler alert.

I heard people express that they didn't like the ending. Honestly, to me, it was neither here nor there because the ending is just life. The story doesn't always have the ending you want.

Today however, what struck me was WHY this story had a bittersweet ending.

Without ruining the entire film and going into a MILLION details I'll break it down to this. This couple didn't get to live their happily ever after because of assumptions.

One assumed there was an expectation and feelings the other never voiced or even really felt. As a result, a decision was made that compromised identity and broke down the relationship.

This can death nail to healthy relationships of any kind, not just romantic.

When we believe we know how another person is thinking or feeling without hearing it from them, we set the stage for disaster. We can end up walking roads that we were never meant to go down and miss the path we were meant to walk. We can harbor bitterness in our hearts over things that never really happened, we just assumed that these feelings existed.

I have seen this time and again on my job.

Without effective communication we end up lost on the path of assumption walking blindly toward destruction.

I want to learn how to let this go and walk only in truth. I want to stop trying to wrap my mind around what someone is thinking or feeling and live based upon their words.

When we stop playing games, relationships have the room to grow strong and endings are much happier.

There is a moment at the end of the film where they show "what might have been."

I don't want to live in a place of what I assume or "what might have been."

I want to live in what is.





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